How Do You Build Confidence?

by Elly Hurley on 30 April, 2012

Wow, I spent Saturday at the Fitness and Health Expo in Sydney and it was HUGE! Even bigger than these 2 guys I had my picture taken with, Derek Boyer (Australia’s Strongest Man since 2000) and Andy Haman (a super-heavy-weight body builder from the States). These guys had muscle on muscle and knew it, and they were loving all the attention.   

The number of people attending and the number of stalls blew my mind. It re-affirmed all I’ve been doing and what I’m working towards. And it provided me with a couple more visions and idea’s for my vision board. The place was just brimming with confidence, self assurance and a feeling that it really is okay to look and feel good. Feeling, looking and being Sexy Slim Fit ‘n’ Fab is what life is about. I’m on the right track!

Believing you have these traits gives you the confidence to take complete ownership of them, which in turn gives you more confidence.  

Let’s talk about confidence for a second. Confidence as I am using it is defined in the dictionary as, “a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.”

Now overall I’m a pretty confident person. There are definitely some settings I’m more comfortable in that others but that’s normal, isn’t it? Identifying and acknowledging this makes my life so much easier. Can you guess what settings I choose to spend more time in? That’s right the one’s I’m more comfortable in. Sure there are times I need to step out of my comfort zone and at these times I endeavour to be as prepared as I can.

Some of you reading this may well be thinking but it’s okay for you because you are confident, and if you are that’s great, it means I’ve grabbed your attention. Let me share with you a couple of things I do to build my confidence.

1. Take Action.
Make a decision and just go for it. Don’t let anything stop you and the feeling you get when you accomplish it will be amazing.

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” ?Dale Carnegie

2. Prepare.
Do your homework, don’t go in cold and completely unprepared. The more prepared you are in any situation the better abled you are to handle whatever comes up. Don’t get stuck in the preparation stage though (refer to the first point, you must take action), there will be some situations where you will never feel completely prepared. Look forward to them as this is when something magical happens.

And last but not least just know that failure or being wrong won’t kill you. Sure it might dent your confidence if you let it, but nothing feels better than getting up and trying again. Imagine if Thomas Edison hadn’t persevered with the light bulb. In his own words, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

Your confidence comes from within, we all have it, some just show theirs off more than others. Believe in yourself and allow your confidence to shine through, you can light up any room you are in. It’s off to bed for me and lights out, night all xx

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– Co-Founder and Creator of Binspired2.

Elly Hurley, mentor, author and coach. She has studied and observed cognition and behavioural sciences for over a decade and is considered an expert on human behaviour and personal transformation. A specialist in entrepreneurial business, internet marketing and sales psychology, her expertise give an unbeatable blend of psychology and internet marketing.

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  • Good to see you out and about Elly. Great blog again and so true about confidence. If you are confident and believe in yourself, then others will too.

  • I love Derek Boyer – he’s hot!!

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